Melinda is not the best at finding the values in a person and needs to work on that. The important thing about values is that they are trustworthy also they will help you when you are having a hard time. They should be honest and easy to talk to. Most people usually notice looks for there first impression on people but some do have there first impression of how they act like if they are mature or not. Melinda is missing a lot of these values like when Heather was having a bad day Melinda wasn’t really listening she would just nod once in a while or says yes okay. Melinda is very personal which is okay sometimes but you have to talk to your friends because if you don’t why would they want to be your friend. Another value is that you should not use your friend like Melinda did with Heather she only was her friend so she had someone to eat lunch with and talk to so her parents wouldn’t get curious. You shouldn’t have bad values because people might just see them and not the good side of you and not want to talk to you or just talk to you to go and gossip about you too others. Values matter because it shows who you are and if you are going to be a good person or a bad. Melinda needs to work on this but she is not the only one Heather could work on this a little also and so could a lot of others.
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Hey Allie,
I agree and disagree with you on this blog post. I somewhat disagree when you say “Most people usually notcie looks for their first impression on people but some do have their first impression of how they act like if they are mature or now”. It’s not that I think you’re wrong, it’s just that I believe that everyone does atoumatically have a first impression of how they act and not just how they look. I totally agree with you when you say “Melinda was only Heather’s friend so she had someone to eat lunch with and talk to so her parents wouldn’t get curious”. Melinda definely did that so her parent wouldn’t start to figure out that she doesn’t have any friends anymore and that something must have happened to her. Good Job on this blog!
-Amanda K.
Allie,
I totally agree and disagree with you and Amanda. Okay so when you say “Most people usually notice looks for their first impression on people but some do have their first impression of how they act like if they are mature or not”. I agree with you, because most people notice on what someone looks like to be friends with them, and then they start to get to know there personalities. I disagree with you and Amanda on “Melinda was only Heather’s friend so she had someone to eat lunch with and talk to so her parents wouldn’t get curious” because I didn’t think that she was using her I just thought she wanted a friend, I thought heather was that was using Melinda because she was new to the school and she didn’t know anyone so she just found Melinda and they were friends but then after a while she found out stuff about her and she just didn’t want to be friends with her. I never really thought of Melinda using Heather. Good Post!!
-Ashley D.
I totally agree Allie!
As you said “Melinda doesn’t get that people around her have values”, and that by making new friends that can help her “heal” from the accident at the party, just by being a friend to others. Melinda doesn’t seem to care what other people say about her because she just thinks that will end up talking behind her back one day like her ex-best friend did. The way she just made friends with Heather isn’t the best circumstance either. Melinda was using Heather for selfless reasons, which is not a way to make a new best friend. Friends are someone you can tell secrets to, share secrets with, tell personal things to, share inside jokes, and so much more. You also said “Values matter because it shows who you are and if you are going to be a good person or bad”. This is also true. Melinda needs to work on improving her values to make more friends and I believe that she doesn’t dry hard enough. Like when she had a chance to talk like friends again with Rachel “Rachel is with me in the bathroom…Now what? I’m going to be completely, totally cool, like nothing has happened. Think ice. Think snow. “How’s it going?””(20). Melinda “blew it” when she attempted to communicate and she needs to learn how to talk to other people better as well as treating her friends, like people with lots of value.
~Hanna L.